Tuesday, May 03, 2011

Breaking the Sound Barrier

I love my husband dearly but seriously he makes it hard sometimes with...his snoring! I have never heard anything like it in my life. It can be heard behind closed doors. It can be heard in lower levels of the house. It's soooo soooo loud. I had to resort to wearing ear plugs way early on since the beginning of our courtship. Often times I resented that...why should I have to go to extremes just to get some sleep?! I know it is not his fault and he isn't trying to annoy me, irritate me, bother me but I have suggested he seek medical treatment for it. I suspect he also has Sleep Apnea, which he refuses to consider, and I won't push but I don't think a simple visit to an ENT specialist could hurt. He still has his tonsils and adenoids and I KNOW that could be a huge source of the problem. I nagged pushed enough that he PROMISED to make an appointment after our wedding. Well, we are under two months 'til our 1st anniversary and he still hasn't done anything about it. I continue to wear the ear plugs and they work 99% of the time but there are times when I wake up in the middle of the night and despite the plugs, I can't get back to sleep cuz I can still hear him.

Right now I am sick and in the middle of the night, when the meds wear off, I am awake coughing my head off and then try to get back to sleep and cannot due to the full steam locomotive in bed with me. Last night was BAD! I poked, I prodded, I pushed, I yelled out his name...NOTHING! Barely a movement on his part. So first I tried a brand new set of ear plugs (yes, I wear a pair more than once...afterall, they've only been in MY ears). That helped but alas...I could STILL hear him. So, then I had to put a pillow over my head! Totally the best thing for me when I am sick and cannot breathe! So this was my sound barrier and, I tell you, I could still hear a hint of snoring...he was breaking my sound barrier! I think by then exhaustion prevailed and I was out but I cannot take another night like that. The cough syrup with codeine may fix that tonight but that won't last forever. I think I am gonna have to put my foot down (either that or in his mouth) and insist he see a doctor. Something has GOT to give and I really hate to see him riding the couch!

Tuesday, February 22, 2011

It's Like I'm Expecting...Again...

I had a little outpatient surgery last week that, for all intents and purposes, has gone horribly wrong. First I developed a raging urinary tract infection and also got violently ill from the pain meds. I ended up in the ER on iv fluids and anti-nausea meds. Horrible! The pain meds still make me sick but they are a MUST so I've resorted to taking half tabs along with the anti-nausea med. I'm taking antibiotics for the UTI. I am essentially on bed rest...so long as I lay on my side only.

WOW! You are probably wondering what I had done?! Many people have asked and only those close to me know. It's more than just a little embarrassing! Ok it was hemmorrhoid surgery - a hemmorrhoidectomy. THERE - I SAID IT! I developed a couple when I was pregnant with my last child - which is PERFECTLY NORMAL during pregnancy. Not that there's anything wrong with having hemmorrhoids! (bad Seinfeld reference) But even though I am a long-term relationship kinda girl - 6 years was long enough for these guys to be hanging around! So, I made the decision to have them removed. Buh bye, adios, hasta la vista, sayonara, catch ya on the flip side - whatever!

Well, now I am recovering and trying to do so gracefully but it's very hard. I mean the pain is beyond belief. Neither the doctor's office nor the hospital properly prepared me for the aftermath. No one told me that the recovery time at home - away from work - would be a minimum of two weeks. They didn't send me home with the proper supplies to care for the surgical site. At one point, I had to use my son's leftover Pull Ups as make shift padding. That was an experience - felt like...well, it felt like a diaper. Glimpse into future! =(

Like I said, I am on the mend. The only thing I still have to look forward to is the first post-surgery bowel movement! Insert "oohs and ouches and OMG's" here! At 4 am this morning it struck me that waiting for this momentous occassion was like I was expecting all over again. First there is the waddle when I walk. Of course there is fear of the unknown and also, every little rumble in my tummy, immediately I'm like, "oh - I think it's time". Well, let me tell you - I've gone into false labor twice today and all the signs are there. There is the pelvic pressure, the back labor, the Lamaze breathing, the screaming at the doctors and the begging for it to be over. The actual delivery hasn't happened yet - YAY me! There is no doubt about it though - through blood, sweat and tears this too shall pass (no pun intended).

Friday, January 28, 2011

Conduct Unbecoming - Part 2

I wrote last year about some unbecoming conduct (see part 1 here) that I witnessed at a freshman basketball game. This year I'm writing about conduct that actually unbecoming doesn't even cover it. Immoral, reprehensible, vicious, disgusting, sick, depraved, sleazy, wretched are all words that would work (thanks thesauraus.com). This again happened at a local basketball game (ironically the same school from my first post was involved) and although *disclaimer* I was not there personally, I have been told about it by more than one source. So, there was a particular player on the TEAM A whose mother died tragically a few years back. When this player was shooting free throws the student section for TEAM B starting chanting "WHERE'S YOUR MOTHER?!!" (up and down tempo like...WHERE'S your MOTHer?!!)

Can you fucking believe that?! How low? How disgraceful and disgusting?! My boys told me about it a couple weeks after it happened and I was so outraged that I wanted to contact the principal at that school myself! I certainly hope something was done about it but how do you know? I mean I can understand that the staff on hand at that moment probably had no idea what the meaning was behind it but I'm sure word spread like wildfire throughout the rest of the game and evening. That is just so completely morally reprehensible it makes me sick! And it doesn't even matter how someone died - if you have any sense of decency what-so-ever you don't go there...EVER!!! Like I said, I hope something was done about it and, yes, perhaps a whole school shouldn't be condemned for the actions of some but still this was a very public display by their student body. Again, it goes way beyond conduct unbecoming.

How Involved Should You Be in Your Kids' Relationships?

Recently I wondered if it makes me a little stalker-ish if I text my son's girlfriend to see if everything is ok with her and/or with them? I mean I was legitimately worried about them - both. My husband had commented that said son was sulking and not conversing with him and when said son came upstairs he looked upset (which according to him I always think he looks that way). I spent 5 minutes begging him to tell me what's wrong and he kept saying, "nothing". Then I saw his girlfriend had put the sad face :( emoticon on her Facebook status (again...stalker-ish maybe??) and I got even more worried! So, what's an over protective worried mom to do? I immediately texted the girlfriend to see if everything was ok. It took her a while to respond but she did say everything was fine just a little drama. I left it at that but I felt like a real idiot that I even went there and I did apologize to her. But like I said, I was worried about them. They like each other so much and are so cute together that I worry what they'd go through if they ever broke up. I know realistically high school sweethearts don't stay together forever. And if they do break up - one of them will have a legitimate reason but I don't want anyone to hurt either. So, did I cross a line? How involved should you be in your kids' relationships?