Conduct Unbecoming - Part 2

I wrote last year about some unbecoming conduct (see part 1 here) that I witnessed at a freshman basketball game. This year I'm writing about conduct that actually unbecoming doesn't even cover it. Immoral, reprehensible, vicious, disgusting, sick, depraved, sleazy, wretched are all words that would work (thanks thesauraus.com). This again happened at a local basketball game (ironically the same school from my first post was involved) and although *disclaimer* I was not there personally, I have been told about it by more than one source. So, there was a particular player on the TEAM A whose mother died tragically a few years back. When this player was shooting free throws the student section for TEAM B starting chanting "WHERE'S YOUR MOTHER?!!" (up and down tempo like...WHERE'S your MOTHer?!!)

Can you fucking believe that?! How low? How disgraceful and disgusting?! My boys told me about it a couple weeks after it happened and I was so outraged that I wanted to contact the principal at that school myself! I certainly hope something was done about it but how do you know? I mean I can understand that the staff on hand at that moment probably had no idea what the meaning was behind it but I'm sure word spread like wildfire throughout the rest of the game and evening. That is just so completely morally reprehensible it makes me sick! And it doesn't even matter how someone died - if you have any sense of decency what-so-ever you don't go there...EVER!!! Like I said, I hope something was done about it and, yes, perhaps a whole school shouldn't be condemned for the actions of some but still this was a very public display by their student body. Again, it goes way beyond conduct unbecoming.

How Involved Should You Be in Your Kids' Relationships?

Recently I wondered if it makes me a little stalker-ish if I text my son's girlfriend to see if everything is ok with her and/or with them? I mean I was legitimately worried about them - both. My husband had commented that said son was sulking and not conversing with him and when said son came upstairs he looked upset (which according to him I always think he looks that way). I spent 5 minutes begging him to tell me what's wrong and he kept saying, "nothing". Then I saw his girlfriend had put the sad face :( emoticon on her Facebook status (again...stalker-ish maybe??) and I got even more worried! So, what's an over protective worried mom to do? I immediately texted the girlfriend to see if everything was ok. It took her a while to respond but she did say everything was fine just a little drama. I left it at that but I felt like a real idiot that I even went there and I did apologize to her. But like I said, I was worried about them. They like each other so much and are so cute together that I worry what they'd go through if they ever broke up. I know realistically high school sweethearts don't stay together forever. And if they do break up - one of them will have a legitimate reason but I don't want anyone to hurt either. So, did I cross a line? How involved should you be in your kids' relationships?